Shavuot 5774 day 1 - We are the Chariots of Torah

A young woman brings home her fiance to meet her parents. After dinner, her mother tells her father to find out about the young man. The father invites the fiance to his study for a drink.

"So what are your plans?" the father asks the young man.

"I am a Torah scholar." he replies.

"A Torah scholar? Hmmm," the father says. "Admirable, but what will you do to provide a nice house for my daughter to live in, as she's accustomed to?"

"I will study," the young man replies, "and God will provide for us." "And how will you buy her a beautiful engagement ring, such as she deserves?" asks the father.

"I will concentrate on my studies," the young man replies, "God will provide for us."

"And children?" asks the father. "How will you support children?" "Don't worry, sir, God will provide," replies the fiance. The conversation proceeds like this, and each time the father questions him, the young idealist insists that God will provide.

Later, the mother asks, "How did it go, honey?"

The father answers, I like him, he thinks I’m God. 

As we celebrate our reception of the Torah on Har Sinai, I’d like to speak about learning Torah.

There is a Mishna in kiddushin where Rav Meir said: One is obligated to teach nhis son and easy and clean occupation and pray to the One from whom one’s livelihood and truth emanates.  Rav Nehorai said: I forego all occupations and teach my son only Torah. 

This Mishna is teaching two seemingly diametrically opposed perspectives on being Jewish.  Rav Meir perspective was that he wants to teach his son to make a living and to Honor God.  Rav Nehorai said that he will forgo teaching his son to make a living and just learn Torah all day. 

Which is the correct approach??  The verdict is still out on that one.  Part of the Jewish world feels strongly that working is a necessary way of life, while another part of the Jewish world values learning all day above all else. 

The brisker Rav, quotes another gemara in trying to make sense of this mishna.  

The gemara in berachot 35b shows a disagreement between Rabbi Yishmael and Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai on this same question.  Rabbi Yishmael teaches,  “because there are verses like the torah shall not depart out of your mouth, and you shall study it night and day, I might have thought that it is to be taken literally. That the ideal way to be Jewish is to study Torah all of the time.”   But since there is another verse which says, “and you shall gather in your corn.” Which implies that one needs to combine the study of Torah with a worldly occupation. 

But R’ Shimon Bar Yochai takes issue with this perspective.  He argues that, “if a man ploughs in the ploughing season, and sows in the sowing season, and reaps in the reaping season, threshes in the threshing season, winnows in the winnowing season…what is to become of the Torah!?!?!?  Therefore, Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai teaches, that the ideal way of life for a Jew is to study all the time, and if we’re doing God’s will, our work will be done by others.  God will provide. 

The gemara points out that lots of people have lived according to Rabbi Yishmael and been successful, both in Torah study and in making a livelihood.  While lots of people who have tried to live according to Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai have not had the same luck. 

The Brisker Rav explains that both are valid ways of life, but it depends on who you are.  If you are as a great as Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, then God will provide if you dedicate yourself to studying Torah.  But for the rest of us, we need to make a living and find the time to study Torah. 

But if we adopt the opinion of Rabbi Ishmael it seems like we’re are totally ignoring the verses that teach us how one should study torah all day, and that the words of Torah should never leave your mouth. 

Rabbi Yaakov Meir Schachter teaches that when people are living their daily lives, raising children, earning a livelihood, it’s not possible to be learning Torah night and day.  But we can fulfill the requirement of being involved w/Torah all day when our goals in our daily tasks are for the sake of the Torah.  When we raise our children to be good Jews and when we work so that we can live a life filled with Torah and Mitzvot, than the times that we’re resting and even the times we’re relaxing are considered to be a chariot for Torah.  Because we are focused on fulfilling our obligations, and everything else we do is helping us get there!

The lesson is, we need to make sure that our eye is always on the prize.  We don’t work in order to rest and be able to retire, we work for the sake of Torah.  The best way to keep this kind of focus, is to be קובע עיתים לתורה, to set aside a specific amount of time, every day, to participate in some sort of Jewish learning.  Even if it’s just 5 minutes a day, will help keep our focus on the meaning of Jewish life.  And that is living a life based on the lessons of the Torah, and dedicated to spreading the light of Torah.  

Beha'alotcha 5774

Abe, an elderly Jew, was being treated in NY presbyterian hospital in the upper east side, it’s one of the world’s best hospitals.  After some time, he requested to be transfered, to tiny little dinky jewish hospital in the lower east side. 

When he meets his new doctor at the new hospital the doctor says, “I see that you’ve asked to here from one of the best hospitals in the world...I don’t get it, did you have a problem with your doctor?

Abe responds, “My doctor was the best in his field and on top of that, he had a bedside manner that couldn’t be beat, about my doctor I couldn’t complain.”

So, the doctor says, “Was it the nursing staff, did the nurses not treat you right?”

- “my Nurses were beautiful both inside and out, they took such good care of me, I couldn’t complain.”

Maybe, the food wasn’t good, did you have a problem with the food they served you?

- “my food was prepared to order by a 5 star chef whenever I wanted, about the food I couldn’t complain.”

Perplexed, the doctor says, “Abe, tell me, if you had such a good experience at that hospital, why did you ask to be switched here?”

With a smile, Abe looked at his doctor and said, “Because here I can complain.”

Everyone loves to complain, it’s a part of life.  Some people do it more, some people do it less, but pretty much everyone complains.

So what’s wrong with a complaining, a little complaining never hurt anyone, did it?

It does.  Negative thoughts are patterns of thought which impact the rest of our thinking and those around us.  We all know from experience how being around someone who complains constantly and is overly negative impacts our own moods and thoughts.  But the effects are not just emotional, negativity has a negative physical impact on us as well. 

According to an experiment done in 2012 by Professor Murray J. Munro, of Simon Fraser University, in Vancouver.  Chronic complaining and negativity can even have strong physical repercussions on the complainers themselves, and on the people around them.

In the experiment, the test subjects were exposed to controlled amounts of complaining from various people who volleyed their complaints in pre-planned ways (in meetings, email messages, social media, etc.) at pre-determined intervals. The impact of exposure to complaints was assessed by taking periodic blood pressure readings and cortisol measurements from each subject at the beginning and end of each day.

Analysis of the data from the daily complaint inventories revealed a significant positive correlation between overall “negativity” and blood pressure levels.

What was most striking about the results of the study, however, was the finding that second-hand complaining was even more harmful to the test subjects than their own self-generated whining. Hearing people complain during staff meetings and reading negative e-mails resulted in significantly higher blood pressure and abnormally elevated cortisol levels. We all know the dangers of high blood pressure. But elevated cortisol levels are equally as bad. Over time, these have been shown to have numerous negative effects, such as:

■     Impaired cognitive performance

■     Suppressed thyroid function

■     Blood sugar imbalances

■     Decreased bone density

■     Decrease in muscle tissue

■     Lowered immunity and inflammatory responses in the body,

■     and many other health consequences

So science shows that the more complaining we do, the more problems we cause ourselves and others, giving you and everyone around more reasons to complain.  It’s a vicious cycle. 

There’s a good deal of complaining in the Parsha this week, Parshat Beha’alotcha.  The first verse in chapter 11 of this week’s parsha says, “ויהי העם כמתאננים רע באזני השם,” the meaning of this phrase is not clear, I’ve seen it translated as:

●     the people were looking to complain to God

●     or that the people were as murmers speaking evil in the ears of God

●     or that the people were as though in mourning over themselves, they were bad in the ears of God. 

No matter how you translate it, it’s clear that there infected with negativity.  The result of this negativity was a fire from God broke out and was devouring the edge of the camp.  In addition to the literal meaning of God punishing the people, this can also be describing a metaphorical sense, in which they were being consumed by their negativity.  At first it was only on the outskirts of the camp, or their consciousness, and this incident ended.  But 3 verses later, the negativity rears it head again. 

A few complainers started to complain about the lack of variety in their diet, only once they started complaining did the rest of the people also pick up the complaint and called out, it was better for us as slaves in Egypt, if only someone would serve us some meat! 

The negativity was infectious. 

It was so infectious, it impacted Moshe as well.  After Moshe heard their complaints, he complained.  The first response of Moshe in this episode is: למה הרעת לעבדך - why have you done such evil for me, to place the burden of this people on me...I can’t do this, it’s too much for me.  He ends his complaint by saying, I’d rather you kill me than I have to continue to deal with this. 

The people seem to be in a rut.  How did they deal with the culture of negativity that was spreding their midst, from the rabble all the way up to Moshe? 

God’s response is to command Moshe to gather 70 elders from amongst the people, people who are respected and who have influence, and I will speak with you there and put some of the רוח or spirit from you and spread it to them, and then you won’t be so alone.

What I see in this story is advice on how get out of a rut.  Moshe and the people were stuck in a negative state of mind.  God told Moshe to gather a community of positivity around him, and share some of the positive forces in his life with that community.  After he’s successfully gotten himself out of a rut by actively sharing positivity with other influential people, then God turns his message to the wider community.  Saying, there is hope, all is not as bad as it seems. Get ready, because tomorrow there will be meat. 

But meat wasn’t going to just appear, they had to get ready. 

Negativity doesn’t just go away, it needs to be willed away. 

From Moses, to the elders, to the people, the cycle needed to be reversed.  God said, Moses you need to snap out of it, instead of wallowing in complaints and self-pity, be proactive.  Gather people who have the potential to be a positive force, share the burden with them, spread a positive message to them, and then let that positivity continue radiate outward.  Finally, in order for the people to feel a resolution to the negative situation, they needed to Get ready themsleves.  התקדשו the Pasuk says, get ready, and then the meat will come. 

If we are stuck in a rut, we have to choose to see things differently, we need to create an environment for positivity to take root and grow.

To drive this message home , in the very next episode of the Parsha, we see another complaint and we see how to handle the situation in a positive manner.  There are two men who are prophesying in the camp without sanction, concerned about the impact on Moshe’s authority, Joshua runs to complain about this to Moshe. 

Instead of being caught in the complaining trap and causing a domino effect of negativity, Moshe spins the situation with a positive outlook, saying, “are you jealous for me, if only all of God’s people could prophets.” 

It would’ve been easy for Moses to get upset, most people would have and then reacted negatively and spread the negativity around some more.  Moshe identifies the beginning of a negative thought pattern and changes it around.  Lesson learned.

Can we learn the lesson as easily?

I believe our sages alluded to the difficulty of creating positive thought patterns and the destructive cycle of negativity in a gemara from Masechet Yoma.  The Gemara says “צדיק מעצמו, the righteous are alone, ורשע מחבירו.The wicked person is with his friends.  What does this mean?  צדיק מעצמו דכתיב: “זכר צדיק לברכה, The impact of a righteous person is only on himself because the verse says a tzadik is remembered for blessing; ורשע מחבירו דכתיב ושם רשעים ירקב.”

while impact of a wicked person is with his friends, as the verse says “the name of the wicked [plural form], shall rot.”

Read this as saying, negativity will spread to others on its own, the wicked person is with his friends.  It is more difficult for positivity to spread, the righteous are alone.

Therefore, we have to be the catalyst for the spread of positivity.

Some suggestions for doing this might be:

●     identify triggers for negative thought patterns before they lead us down a negative road, once down that road it’s harder to turn around.

●     make a point to surround ourselves with positive influences.

●     actively look to do positive things in order to start positive thought patterns. 

Negativity and complaining are a part of life, everyone has ups and downs.  But left unchecked they can have real repercussions on ourselves, our loved ones, and our communities both physically and emotionally. 

For some of us, this advice will hopefully add positivity in our lives and minimize unnecessary complaining.  It’s important to note, that extreme negative feelings can also be a symptom of clinical depression caused by chemicals in our brain, not just by negative thought patterns.  In the case of depression, a person will not be able to remove themselves from the negative thought patterns.  It is very important that we seek external help from experts when they see a constant pattern of negativity in their lives that they are not able to remove themselves from.

Left unchecked, negativity festers it begets more negativity, and it hurts us.  We owe it to ourselves and the people around us, to do whatever it takes to inject more positivity in our lives. 

May we all be blessed to live a life of happiness, see our cups not just half full, but overflowing with blessing, and may we share this positivity with everyone we come in contact with.  

Bamidbar 5774

Jewish Wisdom is vast and universally valuable.  Rabbi Irwin Kula,the President of CLAL, once said to me, “Judaism is an ancient wisdom tradition with as much (if not more) to offer than any other wisdom tradition on the international marketplace of ideas.”   If this is true, why isn't Jewish wisdom more celebrated and studied worldwide?  According to Rabbi Kula, the problem is that most of Jewish wisdom is inaccessible to the average person.  The Jewish religion has not adequately evolved the language to communicate these ideas to a wider public.  Even when in English, Jewish wisdom is cloaked in ancient styles making the true wisdom of ancient Jewish texts too obscure for the uninitiated to appreciate.  

The Jewish community is not adequately translating these ideas and lessons in a way that is open and accesible to all.  The Orthodox world has the closest relationship with ancient Jewish wisdom and the most proficiency in reading and understanding our ancient texts, but we do not have proficiency or desire to share the gifts of Torah with the world. 

Why not? There's no easy answer to a question like this, but I believe that a lot of it has to do with the culture of survival that has evolved in the Orthodox community.  

If you take a close look at the larger Orthodox world, we seem to be motivated by a fear of annihilation, both physically and spiritually.  These fears are prevalent in all parts of the Orthodox world, from the Chareidi side on the right to much of the Modern Orthodox community on the left.  In February, Naomi and I were fortunate enough to staff a shabbaton for Orthodox college students with Lord Rabbi Jonathan Sacks.  After Shabbos dinner, Naomi and I got the opportunity to escort the Rabbi Sacks and his lady wife back to their apartment.  On our walk, Rabbi Sacks remarked to me, how he felt that Orthodox world is inwardly focused to an unhealthy degree, it’s bad for our neshamot, he said...it’s bad for our souls.  

Most of the Orthodox world is obsessed with itself.  We are obsessed with questions about who is really orthodox, who is in/who is out, who can we associate with, who has anything of value to offer our spiritual and intellectual perspectives, who do we deem important enough to try to influence and inspire w/o being patronizing.  Most of the world is oblivious to the genius of Jewish wisdom, because most of Klal Yisrael is alienated from Orthodox Judaism.  

In the parsha we read about the physical numbers of the the Jewish people, in connection to this census, the Haftorah begins with the following verse, “והיה מספר בני ישראל כחול הים אשר לא ימד ולא יספר - And the number of the people of Israel shall be as the sand of the sea, which cannot be measured nor counted.”  There is a logical inconsistency in this verse.  The gemara (Yoma 22b) points out that, although the sand may be numerous, it is not immeasurable; it might take a while to count it all, but there is a finite number.  The second part of the verse which says that they cannot be measured or counted is describing an infinite measure.  These two descriptions, being as numerous as sand, and being immeasurable are not talking about the same thing!  So which is it?  Is the measure of the Jewish people finite or infinite?

The gemara explains that the first part of the pasuk, the finite measurement, is describing when the Jewish people are not doing רצון השם - the will of God; while the second part of the pasuk, the infinite measurement, is describing when the Jewish people are doing רצון השם - the will of God.  This explanation is still lacking.  Although being compared to the sand of the sea may not be as Grand as being immeasurable, it is not the description we would expect to be used when discussing the Jewish people as not doing God's will.

To get a better understanding of this Gemara, we need to understand what is meant by the infinite measurement of the Jewish people, and we need discuss the concept of רצון השם.Last shabbos, I was again privileged to hear Rabbi Sacks speak.  He was the scholar in residence at the Riverdale Jewish Center.  Since we were in Riverdale, I went to hear him speak at a special seduah shlishit question and answer session.  One of the questions asked was, after his first extended stay in the US, what are some of his critiques of the American Jewish community. He pointed out that the American Jewish community is the best in the world at defending Jews.  We have built institutions better than any in the world at protecting the the Jewish people, defending Jewish interests, and fighting anti-semitism.  Yet, with all of that, we have totally failed as a community to create leaders who are purposely and effectively transmitting Jewish wisdom to the broader population.  The Jewish community has failed, so far, to inspire anyone beyond its own borders, and if you look at the recent Pew survey, it's failing to even do that.

The point that the gemara is making about the immeasurable potential of the Jewish people is that our influence can be so much greater than our mere numbers. When the Jewish people are inspiring others, when Jewish wisdom is being adopted by average people to make their own lives more meaningful, there is a little piece of the Jewish people spread all around.  You can’t measure this kind of influence.  

How does this relate to fulfillment of God's will discussed in the Gemara?  In a sermon from 1966, Rabbi Norman Lamm connects the Gemara's commentary on the verse from our haftorah to a teaching of the Chassidic Rabbi, Rabbi Tzadok of Lublin. 

Rav Tzadok distinguishes between two terms: רצונו של מקום and מצוותו של מקום, the will of God and the commandments of God.  These are two different ways of being Jewish, similar, but not the same.  Rabbi Lamm attaches these concepts to the Gemara.  When we fulfill the commandments of God, we are many, but measureable; when we are serving God in the way that not only fulfills commandments but also fulfills the will of God, then we are immeasurable.

When we approach Judaism as a list of laws, when halacha is  the ceiling without any potential of going above and beyond in our fulfillment of the mitzvot, when our focus is only on fulfilling God’s commandments; then we fulfill those commandments, but that does not mean that we are fulfilling the will of God.  This kind of approach to religion is primarily focused on simply checking things off of a checklist, sometimes at the cost of other people or the big picture according to Judaism.  It is an observant lifestyle, but not a spiritual lifestyle.  It isn’t the fulfillment of God’s will in this world.  

Fulfilling the will of God is bigger than just robotically performing commandments.  When halachah is the floor and not the ceiling, when Judaism is a spiritual discipline, when the Mitzvot purify us and encourage us to reach above and beyond in our moral behavior, when doing mitzvot helps us grow, not just as a Jew but as a human being; Then we are fulfilling God's will. Doing the will of God means we do mitzvot in a way that is inspired by the Torah values of doing what is right and just, pursuing justice, being holy and many more Torah Values.  

Jewish life is so beautiful, Judaism is such a complex intellectual system.  The Torah isn't just a list of laws, its wisdom is universally valuable for navigating the big questions of humanity.  Doing the will of God means sharing that wisdom, creating a world influenced by Torah, fulfilling the call to be a light unto the nations. 

When all we think about is doing mitzvot, and mitzvot alone, then we’re measurable.  We have clear boundaries and clear numbers.  You want to know how many Jews there are in the world, do a survey and count, you get pretty close to an exact number and that's all we are is tiny number that is barely perceivable in the world.  We have little to no impact on anyone beyond ourselves.  That's not the fulfillment of God's will.When we are fulfilling the God's will, you can't look at our numbers to understand our presence in the world.  

Although, in this week’s parsha we read about a time when the Jewish people were counted, we know that the Torah forbids us from counting Jews.  To get an accurate census of the Jewish people we counted each person's donated half shekel, and not the person.  One of the reasons for this method of counting is so that we aren't led to believe that our strength lies in our numbers. Ideally we should be much stronger than our actual numbers would tell.  We make this true by spreading beyond our borders and inspiring the world.

Too much of the Orthodox Jewish community today is defined by fear.  The fear of anti-semitism and fear of assimilation is rampant in our community, it is often the dominant motivation to our approach to Jewish life.  To many, Jewish identity is a negative identity.  Meaning, a person feels I have to be jewish because of anti-semitism.  Or every big question that arises from our confrontation with a modern world is stifled because of a fear of assimilation.  We justify dismissing or shaming the big questions by labeling those who struggle and lacking fear of God or we even call them the enemies of Torah.  We deprive our children, our communities and the rest of the world of seeing the true beauty and complexity of a Torah that is intellectually at least as complex, rigorous and inspiring as any other intellectual system, if not more so.  We teach our community that Judaism can't deal with the difficult questions of life.  We send a message to those not comfortable with this approach that they have no place in the Orthodox community.  We do Judaism and the world a disservice by this cowardly approach.

How many are lost as a result? how many people are led to believe that Torah is only for the closed and small minded?  Too many people choose to dissociate as a result and end up assimilating because of our fear of assimilation. Many of my friends, people I grew up with, went to yeshiva day schools and orthodox Jewish camps with, have rejected the Judaism they grew up with, because they were never taught how to struggle with life's questions and see the wisdom of the Torah.  They feel that they outgrew Judaism. 

How many opportunities will we miss to keep our children inspired?  How many others are we, as a community, failing to inspire to see the beauty and complexity of the Torah?

Is this perspective on the state of the Orthodox world correct?  If you look at the recent Pew report, the orthodox community seems to be doing much better than any other branch of Judaism in terms of retaining numbers and growth.  For many orthodox Jews, this simple fact about numbers is a point of pride.  When Rabbi Steve Weil, the outgoing Executive vice-President of the OU, was discussing the Pew survey at a professional conference Naomi and I attended, he said what worries him most about the Pew report is Orthodox triumphalism.  He’s worried that the part of the Jewish community most concerned with doing mitzvot and connected to Torah will see the numbers and think “we’ve won,” by doing this, they’ll miss the most important lesson from the Pew report.  That lesson is that the Orthodox haven’t won, rather, the entire Jewish community has lost.  

Around 60% of Jews identify with Judaism as a culture and not as a religion and around 70% of Jews are intermarrying.  Bagels and lox and, matzah balls have a greater influence on the identity of Jews than Torah!  No one has won when that many Jews want nothing to do with the Torah.  The Torah is the birthright of all the Jewish people, whether they are religious or not.  The system of Torah has value and teaches meaning, even if a person chooses not to see it's divine nature.  And yet, most Jews want nothing to do with the Torah.

When Jews are ignorant of Jewish wisdom, when learned Jews are more concerned with protecting themselves than inspiring others, Judaism’s influence on the world is limited because God’s will is not being done.  So what do we do? It's so easy to lose our appreciation of mitzvot and their greater meaning when we do them habitually over and over again. 

I'd like to suggest some simple recommendations to help inspire ourselves and others:

do we simply do mitzvot like items on a checklist?  Let me start with one mitzvah and think about how to make it more inspiring to me.  Or, let me think about how I can share my shabbos experience with people who haven't experienced the beauty of shabbos before. 

Do Jewish values - which aren't codified in halacha so there's not defineable action -  do they inspire us to action and impact our Jewish identity?  If I'm not sure, let me try discuss with my family and practice articulating, what Jewish values are most important to us.  Or, pick a book about Jewish values and then pick a family member, a friend, or a colleague once a week get together in person or on skype to read and discuss.  Don't wait for someone else to get started, if you ask, I guarantee someone will love the opportunity to do this with you.

When is my way of being jewish motivated by fear?  Sometimes there is a need for that fear, anti-semitism and assimilation are real, but we err on the side of caution too often, do we ever evaluate when we are making decisions based on fear?  If we find that we don’t, we should try removing ourselves from our comfort zone and trying one of these suggestions with someone who we wouldn't normally associate with on that level, a non-orthodox family member, friend or colleague, or even a a non-Jewish acquiantance.  And try doing it in a way that doesn't assume your way is right for the other person, but in a way where you both have something unique and valuable to offer the other.  

Let the Torah speak for itself, share that torah with others, you will inspire and be inspired!

The haftorah echoes the bracha given to Avraham that his offspring will be as numberous as the sand, but they also have the potential to be immeasurable.  When we fulfill this bracha, we can fulfill another of God's promises to Avraham, ונברכו בך כל משפחות האדמה - all the nations of the earth will be blessed through you.  We do this by living a life of Torah that is inspiring and inspirational.  The Torah is often compared to a flame, because sharing it doesn’t diminish the original flame in anyway, it simply spreads more light.  That light needs us to spread it around.

May we all be blessd to live an inspired and inspiring Jewish life.